From the outside, perfectionism often looks like a strength: high standards, reliability, results. Inside it feels different - like constant tension, as if one mistake could undo everything. When control becomes your way of feeling safe, it is hard to hand things over, to rest or to let anything happen without you. I help you see clearly what your perfectionism protects you from and what it costs you.
Control often appears where life once felt unpredictable: if you hold everything in your hands, nothing can catch you off guard. For a long time this works well, and many people build successful careers on it.
Alfred Adler saw the striving for perfection as part of every human being: from early childhood we move from a sense of "not enough" towards a goal that promises security and worth. It becomes a burden when the goal is an ideal no one can reach, and every mistake feels like a threat.
Rudolf Dreikurs, a student of Adler, spoke of the courage to be imperfect. In the sessions we look at where your demands on yourself come from, whose voice your inner critic speaks with, and what you fear would happen if you allowed yourself to be good enough rather than perfect.
We also work with concrete situations: finishing a task when it is good enough, handing over part of the responsibility, making a mistake and seeing what actually happens.
The aim is that your high standards stay where they help you, and that you can loosen control where it only takes your strength.
My sessions are consultations. They are not medical or psychotherapeutic treatment.